Good listening is rare

Sunday, May 8, 2022 (23:43)

Excerpts from How to become a better listener, according to science (Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic)

“How well and frequently you listen to others is a better predictor of your leadership potential than your actual intelligence or personality.”

“Good listening is rare. We live in a world in which people are often rewarded for self-promoting, being the center of attention, and talking as much as they can, even when they have nothing to say. The fact that Susan Cain’s rational defense of introversion is arguably counterintuitive to most people (especially in hyper-outgoing American culture) suggests that we are still not fully convinced about the virtues of listening, though most people are happy to recommend this activity to everyone else.”

He gives 4 advices labelled “focus”, “empathy”, “self-control” and “inclusion”.

I’d obviously get a bad score for the “focus” advice because I have the habit of doing some background activity when the other person is speaking.