About friends

When I moved from Belgium to Estonia at the age of 30, one of my biggest worries was: will I lose my friends?

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Here is how I currently define “friend”:

friend

Somebody to whom you do not refuse your help even when it requires a reasonable effort

Of course “reasonable” still remains subjective.

This definition is special in that it turns the classical definition upside-down: the condition lies within me, not within the other person.

I don’t need to ask “Are you my friend?”, I can say “ I consider you as my friend and I hope that you also consider me as your friend.”