About sexual disorders¶
I suggest the following definition:
A sexual disorder is when you have an extraordinary sexual orientation or identity. Something with your sexual orientation or identity is out of order, it is extraordinary.
With this definition, we can say that homosexuality and transgenderism are sexual disorders. Your sexual orientation developed into the wrong direction, it makes you choose a partner of the wrong sex. Where wrong means different from the reason why nature developed sexual drive. It is a form of impotence because you won’t have biological children unless you somehow manage to fool your disorder by having at least a short moment of sex with a “real” partner.
None of above means that having a sexual disorder is a shame or a sin.
Sexual disorder does not mean psychiatric disorder. A psychiatric disorder is something that disturbs your social life.
An extraordinary sexuality can become a psychiatric disorder only if you fail to integrate into your environment. In a homophobe society, homosexual people can develop a psychiatric disorder. Homophobia hurts innocent people. That’s why homophobia is a sin.
When you are homosexual or transgender, you face miscellaneous problems in daily life because you are swimming against the stream. These problems are similar to the problems of left-handed people. It would be unjust to call such problems homophobia. You cannot expect other people to become left-handed just because it helps you to feel better.
Are sexual disorders definitive? Is it something that you must learn to accept and “manage”? Or can you “heal” it and become “normal”? I think that both possibilities are okay. Our health care system should provide support in both directions: you may be extraordinary want to become heterosexual, or you may want to remain extraordinary and face problems with certain people. In both cases you may need professional help.
There are people who were homosexual and then managed to reorientate. They married a partner of opposite sex and lived happy ever after until the end.
Also pedophilia is a sexual disorder (see e.g. Pedophilia Is a Mental Health Issue. It’s Still Not Treated as One Shayla Love, vice.com, August 2020), but unlike LGBTQ disorders it can lead humans to hurt other humans. There were cultures where pedophilia was considered normal: Pedophilia in Ancient Greece and Rome
Even when you fail or refuse to reorientate and remain without biological children during your life on Earth. There is more to life than having children.
There is no valid reason to feel guilty about being homosexual, and there is no valid reason to reject homosexual humans from society. Homosexuality is an exception to the rule and an exciting phenomena at social, ethic and scientific level and an enrichment for humanity.
Living as a homosexual has sometimes been difficult because many human civilizations were afraid of the phenomenon. Homosexuality is a challenge because it confronts our society with the question “What to do with those who are different?”. It is only a few generations ago that humankind started to understand that homosexuality is actually a gift to us all because it helps us to realize the miracle of sexuality.
The UN are working hard on this. Article 16 of the UDHR was written in a time when most people didn’t worry about homosexual people. I guess that one upon a time they will optimize the formulation to make things clear. This process takes time because not yet all nations are ready to embrace homosexual people as a gift. But we are on our way. In November 2018, the UN Human Rights Office launched a special series of articles to commemorate the 70th anniversary of the UDHR where it addresses the issue:
It is important to recognize sexual polarization as a matter of fact. Of course the role distribution of sexes becomes more diversified with increasing complexity of a society. Refusing to accept LGBTQ as a disorder leads to absurd results in legislation, like attempts to teach children that there is no difference between men and women.
They are deviations from norm that fails to satisfy the original biological purpose of sexuality.
They are not by themselves a source of negative psychological or social effects.
There is no valid reason to feel guilty about being homosexual or transgender, and there is no valid reason to reject disordered humans from society.
They are exceptions to the rule and a valuable phenomena at social, ethic and scientific level and an enrichment for humanity.
There are enough known cases of homosexual individuals who managed to marry a human of opposite sex, had biological children and were happy ever thereafter until the end of their life.
There are cases where a homosexual orientation could successfully be changed at least partly into a heterosexual orientation.
Another way to manage homosexuality is to live a celibate life. Becket Cook, in his book Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption (2019), shares his experience as a gay who became Christian. This didn’t make him heterosexual but helped him to find a meaningful way of life. See also Thursday, December 10, 2020.
Homosexual humans sometimes refrain from openly identifying as such due to homophobia.
Homosexual behaviour has also been documented and can be observed in non-human animal species.
In 2017 there were still humans who seriously considered suicide as the only solution for their sexual disorder.
In 2017 there were still humans of moral authority who publicly declared that homosexuality is a sin.
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